Traditions

Grooms buttonhole Scottish brides in recent centuries would only have one day off work and that would be Sunday, most weddings were carried out on a Sunday, often the Sunday church service would be conducted before or after the wedding. The Scottish bride dressed in her Sunday best would walk along the pathways to get to church knocking on doors to remind her neighbours she was getting married that morn,she would also gather some wild flowers from the wayside to carry as a posy, when she arrived at the church her groom would be waiting for her, she then took a flower from her hand tied posy and popped it into his lapel, they would then go forward into church together to await their turn to marry (should there be more than one couple) And so the grooms buttonhole matching his brides bouquet became a well Kent tradition at Scottish weddings, still very much alive today.
 Love spoonsThe groom while waiting at the church for his bride would often sit for hours carving out (whittling) a piece of wood into a token of his love, usually something of use like a spoon or fork with intricate detail on the handle, he gave this to his bride when she arrived for the ceremony. Evil spiritsMost countries in the world have their own beliefs and traditions to encourage health, wealth, happiness, fertility and long life in the newly wed couple.Scottish traditions and folklore is more about warding off evil spirits who wish to carry off the virgin bride before she gets to the honeymoon when she is no longer such a good catch to take back to Satan Evil spirits are awful stupid however, as they are frightened away by noise, confused by crowds, and lured by money, bridesmaids are dressed similar to the bride to confuse these demons, they just don’t know whom to grab. The all Scottish ‘Scramble’ for money thrown with gay abandon from the car taking father and daughter to the ceremony are scrambled after not so much by local children as these greedy demons chasing the coins and forgetting all about the prize bride who has just sped off with her father.The ‘Scramble is repeated when the happy couple leave the ceremony when the groom then throws the coins so he can whisk his bride to safety from the clutches of these spirits.Tin cans and all sorts tied at the back of the bridal car as the couple leave for their honeymoon serve the same purpose, as do fireworks to simply make a noise. Bridal clothesIt is considered bad luck for the bride to try on all of her bridal clothes at the same time before she is actually getting ready for her wedding, a bride wishing to try on her dress and veil will usually get round this by standing in only one shoe. Bridesmaids used to be dressed exactly the same as the bride to confuse evil spirits but in later centuries (probably realising how dumb the evil spirits were) she insisted on being dressed in a finer frock and adding a veil. The evil spirits never seemed to notice. The brides mother will usually just before her daughter leaves the house for the church  sew a few stitches into the hem of her dress as this is considered good luck that the dress is only just finished on the wedding morning.What normally was happening was on the instructions of the brides’ father, her mother was sewing a sixpence into the lining of her dress where it would not be found by anyone not even her maids, certainly not her new husband. (See Silver Sixpence for the beautiful story) .
Silver Sixpence The little known tradition of a silver sixpence in her shoe is from days of old when on marriage the bride passed from her fathers keeping into the safety of her new husbands family, from then on she had no possessions or money of her own everything belongedto her husband.  On the morn of her wedding day the bride’s father would give her a sixpence to hide in her shoe to be used in the unlikely event that her groom was cruel to her. Her dad knew she had enough money to bribe a footman to take her back to his houseMost brides lived a good life with their new husbands and the sixpence still wrapped was often found amongst her possessions after she died of old age, survivingrelatives credited the little lucky sixpence for keeping the marriage happy, since she never needed to use it to take her back to her father.